Worried Travellers

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The recent earthquake at Bali is making a friend who is making her way there in the next few months, very worried.

When we went for our Bali trip in March, Sumatera had 3 earthquakes in the range of 7 on Richter scale last year. Then of course, a few weeks before our trip, the earthquake and tsunami in Japan happened.

You can imagine our worry too.

I debated thousands of times about staying in Sanur (beachside) and finally decided that being next to the beach or 200m away from the beach would not be much of a difference if (God forbids) tsunami happens. I have no issue about subjecting myself (as some would call it) to known danger but it is irresponsible and asking for trouble to go to disaster-prone areas with kids.

But in the end, we went ahead and were blessed with a safe and enjoyable trip.

And as I told my worried friend, unless an earthquake happens days before she arrives, there is nothing to worry about.

Besides, personally, visitors are more likely to get hurt in Bali by the swarms of riders on scooters and the likes, with no such thing as motorcycle navigators - swerving left and right and all over their narrow out of town roads!

Reason To Indulge

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Perhaps one of the most common mistake stay-at-home-moms (SAHMs) makes is neglecting ourselves.

How many SAHMs buy vanity and personal things for themselves easily or take time to do activity that has nothing to do with the kids, family or household?

Surely it starts with the guilt of not contributing financially for the family. We feel indebted and pressured to spend our time and energy on the only one thing we are supposed to do – look after the family.

Unlike working women who have another place to go, requiring different roles and faces PLUS getting an income of their own – huge motivation to be mindful of themselves – most SAHMs have no independent income and nowhere else to be but at home.

New blouse? Who needs to see? Diamond necklaces? Not when money is needed for tuitions and university. Go for manicure? The house needs to be cleaned.

We end up dedicating all of our energy/time/money on the kids, husbands and the households – especially those of us with no maid.

But this should not be the way.

Paying more attention on ourselves make us look and feel good. We then make conscious effort at keeping ourselves happy, effectively pushing away resentment or boredom (the other two most common SAHMs issues).

So indulge in whatever we enjoy – spa, massage, zumba! Spend on ourselves once in a while; new outfit, heels, jewelries because after working hard to keep our family safe, healthy and happy, of course we deserve it!

In short, please raise my credit card limit.

Karma

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When someone does something that angers us, we console ourselves that karma will bite that person back – and we could not be happier until that day comes.

The problem with this is that karma rarely comes back to “punish” soon enough.

The worst part about karma is that it’s been said that the cycle is completed in another lifetime or generation – striking a person when he is most undeserving of the punishment for some misdeeds committed in his previous lives.

Punished, when he is now leading an innocent life.

Because how else can one explain a succession of bad and tragic luck that befell a near saintly person – if not that it’s karma at work?

Seeing what unjust misery it can cause, I wish there are no such thing as karma striking back – on anybody in his current life and especially future lives – no matter what wrongdoings he may have committed.

May God forgives whatever it was that he has done in his past lives and may God notices every good things that he has done in this lifetime.

And may God please have mercy on this family.

Book Reader

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One thing I enjoy when I wait for my kids in school is to read.

For the last quarter of an hour before the last bell rings, when we would wait in the car. In this confined area, I can finally let my eyes off my younger two and while they relax with the show on, I would take a breather with my book too.

It may only be about 10 mins of reading but it’s enough for a few pages with no time wasted on booting and loading up because yes, I still read with a proper printed book.

Unlike many who has gone the e-book way, I will stick to my printed books because of many obvious reasons. It’s easy to flip to the pages that I want. There is no problem with flat battery or software updates. My data backup software consists of a regular basket to hold my books, needing no license or compatibility issues or, again – no software updates!

It’s a non-issue even if pesky hands got hold of them, lost their grip and they get dropped on the floor because my books are hardy – and cheap enough to replace if need to.

Just like a Sabahan author whose printed book is in my collection, I too will always prefer actual books that I can read anytime and anywhere.

Dignity

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The only thing that was right in the whole incident which made worldwide headlines within seconds was this statement : “You don’t trot out this stuff as trophies“.

Taking another human life should never be consider as something to gloat and brag over like trophies and awards, no matter how rightfully it was taken – especially in this case where this man was simply the face for a movement, and a growing one at that.

Let’s just hope that his statement was enough to stop the gleeful gloating of the more vengeful amongst his followers and especially to assure his allies and placate his protesters and enemies that he is honourable enough to give what was never offered by the other side, dignity.

Because we do not need another resurgence of martyrdom fueled by anger and revenge.

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